Momma’s Got a New Playlist

Today I woke up and it was unlike any other day that I can remember.

Nothing amazing took place.

Well, somehing amazing did take place, but not like you think. The amazing happening was waking up at 6am, without an alarm, full of energy! I guess I should preface this with the fact I went to bed the night before at 10pm because I was truly feeling tired. I thought that was really weird since I normally stay up past midnight working and find it extremely difficult to find the zzzzz’s.

I’m obssessed with this song by TobyMac. I listen to it on repeat as I MOVE or work.

Today was Day 5 of the Optavia program I started for my weight loss. The first three days were pure hell for me, but yesterday and today, I felt really good. LIKE, so good, I am cleaning and folding laundry, ready to finally participate in the decluttering challenges my friend, Gail, issues us in our Facebook Group. So good, I am not yelling at anyone or cussing my husband out. Like so good, I listened to my body telling me I was hungry and have been uber intentional about hydrating myself.

Who is this woman? ME!!!!

Why Will it Work This Time?

My favorite, new podcast!! She cusses! I LOVE IT!

The same woman who has flunked Jenny Craig, Weight Watchers, Keto, Intermittent Fasting, and probably a few more programs. So…why should this new program be any different as my Facebook Memories remind me of the many times I’ve started a new and excting, healthy weight loss journey, only to eventually abandon it? It’s likely people who have known me already think I’m going to fail again….well that’s what my asshole thinking tells me. Reality is no one is keeping up with my failures and holding them against me. And if they are, they are the assholes.

My short-term game is going to prove my long-term goals, and I’m ready. I’m already a few pounds down, which is encouraging, but my thinking is more positive. Women, who are so much like me, have reached out to support me and I will support them as well. I’m not ignoring the reality of who I am and where I have been, including my failures. I’m using them to fuel me into a new direction where I use the truth of my behavior and habits to plan better against relapses of overeatting, binge eating, or thinking if I starve myself it will equal out.

I’ve gained over thirty pounds in the last year. I feel like getting back to my pre-pandemic weight is a giant to take on, and then to get even more healthy and under 200 pounds, feels almost impossible, but there is this warrior inside of me, who trust that in Christ I can truly do anything, and so I begin!


While I am in a weight loss program called Optavia, I chose it for the education. I do eat a few times a day, and this is kinda weird, but what I love so far is the challenge of forming “micro-habits.” This week’s habit is drinking more water, and I have drank more water than required every day! I’m winning!

The coolest part of it all is the support of my husband, kids, and friends. No, the coolest part is feeling like a freakin’ rockstar for the first time in I don’t even know how long!

This is not a “Before Shot.” This is me feeling fantastic and loving me just as I am today. A fatter me to compare myself to isn’t going to make me more proud in a month’s or year’s time.

I’m going to keep learning how to lose weight and keep it off so I don’t face a set back with every pandemic that comes our way. haha.

I write always to encourage at least one other person who is feeling like me. If you have hit reset or started a new program and failed many times like me, it’s okay to try again. And again. When the path you are on is leading to unhealthy unhappiness, it’s brave to chart yourself a new course. Just don’t go it alone because there are so many of us who will cheer you on as well!

#ImSorryStory Book Birthday

Watch for a Bilingual Read Aloud with Nicole Biscotti, M. Ed. There are also discussion questions that follow.

It might seem silly to some that I got excited about the #ImSorryStory Book Birthday, but for me, it was celebrating a dream come true! The pandemic threw a wrench in my plans on introducing my book into the world, at least the way I saw it would be introduced with book signings in my community and schools, but technology has allowed me to share it with children all over the world. It was also special for my close friends, Dr. Joy and Mandy Froehlich, to stop by and share about why they think my book is so cool! So today, I am more than grateful!

My selfie to celebrate both stories today! It’s been an incredible year!

Another dream come true was my friend and colleague, Nicole Biscotti, translated my story into Spanish! Reading it today with her was so special and we hope even more people feel invited to be part of this story and begin conversations of healing! We’d both love to do more of these readings together, so please reach out if you are an educator or homeschool co-op member and we will get it going!

It has been such a joy to share the #ImSorryStory with classes, globally, and I would love to continue sharing my story into this new year, as well. 

What are you excited about? What milestones are you celebrating? In this current time, and as we move out of it, it’s these moments of joy that continue to fuel us to continue on our path.  Thank you for supporting me this past year!

WRAD is RAD! Join Us!

Talking with World Read Aloud Day Co-Founder, Dorothy Lee!

WRAD Beginnings

The way Dorothy Lee explained how World Read Aloud Day (WRAD) came about is the coolest story, ever! It was a child’s idea and brainstorming that set the wheels in motion. Now, WRAD is a global movement! This is the twelveth year for it and we are partnering with Dorothy and all of the rest of the incredible readers in the world who are celebrating!

WRAD is RAD Stream-A-Thon

If you don’t have any plans, join us! It’s FREE! Amanda Fox, owner and Founder of MetaInk Publishing, is sponsoring this amazing event that will be streaming LIVE from my YouTube from 10am-6pm EST. With her help and the help of another RAD Author, Dennis Mathew, we have an All Star Lineup that highlights representation for children, everywhere!

The Raddest Lineup of Authors:

10 am Adam Rubin with Dragons Love Tacos!

10:30 am Savindar  Naberhaus with Blue Sky White Stars!

11 am Amanda Fox with Markertown FIRST TIME DEBUT!

NOON Melody McAllister (ME) with I’m Sorry Story

12:30 pm Leslea Newman with Welcoming Elijah

1 pm Debbie Ridpath Ohi with Sam & Eva

1:30 pm Dr. Deshunna Monay Ricks with I AM Valuable!

2pm Jay Miletsky with Patrick Picklebottom and the Penny Book

2:30 Sheetal Sheth with Always Anjali

3pm Jeff Kubiak with It’s Me FIRST TIME DEBUT

3:30 Alice Aspinall with a Surprise!

4pm Leticia Ordaz with That Girl On TV Could Be Me

4:30 Betsy O’Neill-Sheehan and Manuel Herrera with Agi and the Thought Compass

5pm Zaa-Vonah Cooper with Bullying Has No Color


5:30 DENNIS MATHEW with Bello the Cello AND SONGS!!!

Share the RAD WRAD LOVE!

We are inviting you and all your friends to participate! Share this with your friends, teachers, and neighbors because we want everyone to enjoy a good read aloud! There will be signed copy book giveaways every hour, too! Just comment when we are going LIVE or Tweet out a screenshot with #WRADisRAD and we’ll find you and enter you in for a chance to win!

If you just want to be part of the global movement, look for these hashtags: #WorldReadAloudDay #WRAD #WRAD2021 #WRADchallenge

We hope you will join in and have some fun with us! This is all for the love of reading!

See you soon!

Black History is For Everybody

For our first #CourageousConversations in EdTech Broadcast for 2021, we kicked it off by inviting educators from Nearpod+Flocabulary and Buncee. Dr. Ilene Winokur and Victoria Thompson have worked closely with Buncee and I have been working with Nearpod+Flocabulary for years. In previous broadcasts, Victoria shared about how we can get caught up in getting “free” resources from different sites that are not vetted, or checked, to see if they are safe for all students, especially our Students of Color or those who have historically been marginalized.  We invited our friends from these amazing companies because we know a huge part of their mission is to be inclusive and celebrate all people 365 days of the year. However, they also have resources specifically for this month, Black History Month.  

Eda Gimenez shares about the resourcs from Buncee designed for Black History Month.

Af the beginning of the broadcast, our three guests, Eda Gimenez, Mervin Jenkins, and Quinae Jackson talked about why anti-racist education was a personal mission.  As People of Color, they shared the challenges they faced growing up without representation in curriculum and in daily life. They have each strived to do better for students and teachers coming after them.  Their passion for purposeful change shows in the way they lead and represent their respective companies as a genuine way of transforming education.  Both companies use graphics and lessons that represent people from many different backgrounds and ways of life. They lean on and trust educator feedback and community to continuously grow in their learning and teaching platforms.

Mervin Jenkins shows us how Flocabulary offers different types of lessons included with each video, this one from the Racial Justice Unit.

Dr. Ilene mentioned how it’s refreshing to see people from the Middle East being represented positively as she uses Buncee, as she has lived and worked in Kuwait for 36 years! I can testify that it was using Flocabulary that helped transform me into an educator who denied being racist to someone who regularly reflects on anti-racist practices. The best thing about Nearpod is that if you don’t know where to start, they have high-quality lessons ready to be implemented immediately. Both companies have made it so easy for educators to learn even more as they go, and Victoria noted how they are both student-centered companies, which is always part of best practices!  Both Buncee and Nearpod+Flocabulary help educators celebrate and teach about People of Color, social emotional learning, and provide for future ready skills. 

Quinae Jackson shows us all of the high-quality, interactive lessons Nearpod offers.

If you are new to Buncee or Nearpod+Flocabulary, they have made it very easy for educators to embrace anti-racist education and even start Black History Month off with real momentum. You can sign up for a free trials with Buncee and Flocabulary, and if you use my Nearpod PioNear code, you can get three months free of the gold edition, which includes these lessons. Just go to and use my code NP-MelodyMcAllister! 

Events to Look For:

Flocabulary: Black History Month Rap Contest

Join Quinae and myself for this session next weekend!

Nearpod Camp Engage & Weekly #NearpodChat 

Buncee continuously has live trainings every week and demo lessons! 

Both companies (Nearpod acquired Flocabulary about two years ago) also have amazing Ambassador communities on Facebook and Twitter! Not to mention you can DM any one of us and we will get you headed into the right direction for any of these resources! 

Black History Month is Just a Beginning 

Like Quinae Jackson mentioned in our broadcast, “Black History is American History.” She even reminded us that Black History is for all kids of all colors and backgrounds. Mervin Jenkins reminded us that learning how to be anti-racist is not easy. Victoria Thompson reminded us that we are not looking for perfection, just a place to start and grow, while infused with grace along the way. As we start this new decade with a new president and hope that we will get the Coronavirus under control, we need each other so much more. Eda Gimenez shared how when we miss voices we are missing opportunties to learn. Finding a way to celebrate the innovations and creativity of People of Color, while also battling constant adversity, will teach us all how to move forward, together. That is the hope for our all of us and why we will continue to have courageous conversations about race in edtech!

Black History is American History.

Quinae Jackson

I’m All of These

Check out this 37 second YouTube for a laugh!

This ridiculous #ControlMinus video did something for me this week. It provided my husband, my oldest daughter, some friends, and myself a lot of laughter. It also helped me get over myself.

When I do my LIVE broadcasts, upload to my Insta, my Facebook, my Twitter, and LinkedIn, I try so hard to make sure people only see my upper half. I use the SnapChat camera because I feel like my mirror image looks ten pounds lighter than when a regular camera flips my image around. I make sure that my makeup looks perfect as possible and that my hair is fixed. I do this because from a young age, I’ve been trained to cover up all of my imperfections: my big hips, my yellow teeth, my face without makeup…most of me. I learned from a very early age that I had a lot of imperfections, and it iternalized into this fear that if people saw the true me, they would realize how ugly I really am and reject me.

Because when I look in the mirror on most days, all I see are my big hips, my yellow teeth, my fat butt, my ugly face etc. etc. etc. I have to try really hard to see beauty before I cover myself up. That does happen every once in a while, but gaining thirty pounds this past year has not helped my esteem in any way!

My friend, Alice, says that no one else cares if I don’t wear makeup. I think to myself, “Easy for her to say, she’s skinny and beautiful.” She doesn’t place so much importance on her appearance because after making hundreds of YouTubes and speaking in front of huge audiences, she knows that other people don’t judge us like we judge ourselves. And I honestly don’t think she cares if people judge her based on her appearance.

Anyway, that 37 second YouTube recording, it gave me such a good laugh and put me in my place. I am that silly looking person in the video. I am also the pretty lady in the selfies I like to post. My friend Lynell says I take awesome selfies. Regardless of how I look, I am loved. Alice is right that I am judging myself more harshly than anyone else, and I really need to keep working on accepting myself. I run the risk of projecting the same insecurities I have onto my children, and I do not want that!

I still think I look much better with makeup, but someone I really care about, recently told me I am one of the most honest people she has ever met. So honestly, I’d like to be just as confident with or without all the cover-ups.

Apologies & the Healing Timeline

Has someone ever surprised you with a genuine apology? It’s natural to seek closure, but in my life experiences, closure is a unicorn.

Surprisingly and recently in my own life, a family member who had been estranged from me for years, offered a sincere apology and it made my heart burst with joy, even though I had already forgiven this person. If this apology had happened ten years ago, perphaps there wouldn’t have been estragement, but who is to say? Life happens as it will and finding forgiveness and accepting it is a a beautiful thing. My family member and I now stay in touch more regularly and this has been gift to me!

An apology doesn’t undo pain or hurt and it shouldn’t be viewed as permission to hurt someone again. Forgivness doesn’t erase or condone pain inflicted, and that is normally the reason others say they refuse to forgive. ⠀

But when someone tells and shows you how sorry they are for the pain they’ve caused in your life, pain they caused that you didn’t deserve… well, it can really help the healing process. I always think that the deeper the wound, the longer the healing process, but a genuine apology can make a difference in this timeline. This timeline for healing is different and unique for everyone, and unfortunately, some might never truly heal.

However, this timeline doesn’t need to involve decades of estrangement! And then again, even with a beautifully expressed apology, a relatonship might not be resurrected. My hope is that healing can occur at some point and that healing can shut off a broken record of regret that often stirs up resentment and anger (justified as it may be).

A genuine apology can soften the ground, for real healing, in a hurting heart and change the timeline of restoration.


I’m NOT Sorry Story

Today I wrote on my Instagram that it’s just as important to help young people realize what they do NOT need to be sorry for as much as it is to know when they do need to apologize.

Here is my post:

Sorry, sorry, sorry!

This post came after thinking about my past insecurities and what/who helped me make it through to a place where confidence replaces the feelings of constant apology for the person I am mentally and physically.

More than anything, what helped me were the gentle reminders, from people who knew and loved me, telling me I was enough and there was no need to be sorry for who I am. Those who scolded me because I apologized too much just earned another “sorry!” And truthfully, I felt miserable for feeling so miserable! I really was sorry!

Sincere apologies are necessary but not for when it comes to who we are.

I’m NOT Sorry

I’m not sorry for my hips.

I’m not sorry for my laugh.

I’m not sorry for my hair.

I’m not sorry for who I love.

I’m not sorry for growing and changing into the person I am today.


Many of these feelings of insecurity came from growing up in a toxic atmosphere, but no one is perfect, and that includes me. As much as I hope I’m different than where I came from, I’ve had to own the things I’ve said to my family. Do I emphasize what they do wrong more than how much I appreciate all they do well? Am I reinforcing a confident mindset where they know they are beautiful creations designed by God who have unique purposes?

The truth is, I mess up a lot. I do harp on the negative too much.

But it’s not too late for them and it’s not too late for me.

I’m not sorry for learning, growing, changing, and doing better, and that brings me full circle to knowing when to apologize and make things right, and it still is within my power to make it right.

Be well, my friends!

LIVE w/ Rachelle & Mel: Guest Amanda Fox

Rachelle & Mel in THRIVEinEDU

Join Us Every Mon & Fri!

Every Monday and Friday, I go LIVE with my friend and colleague, Rachelle Dene Poth. We started going LIVE in the Facebook Community she created inspired by her beautiful book with the same name: Unconventional: Ways to Thrive in EDU.  We began going live during late summer and have since featured many educators. Those who are in this community with us are amazing as it’s a place where you can share what you are doing and creating in education: blogs, YouTubes, Flipgrids, conference opportunities, books, etc. But going LIVE twice a week has been so much fun and kept me inspired by all the amazing things educators are doing all over the country and world. 

Amanda Fox: Markertown

Today we talked to the wonderful educator, author, illustrator, and entrepreneur Amanda Fox. She just released a Kickstarter campaign to help publish her newest book, Markertown. I can’t wait for this book to be released and read it to my own children. It’s a story that is beautifully illustrated with a message that can help lead to conversations about self-worth, kindness, and how our own abilities create beauty in our surroundings. It is an inclusive children’s book that parents and educators can add to their libraries and know it will spark positive change for the readers who step into this colorful world! 

An Illustration from Amanda Fox’s new book, Markertown!

Are you an educator who needs a supportive community to THRIVE? Join us! We’d love to have you and we have many new guests coming that you will be sure to inspire!

Recent Guest Blogs

This year has been a doozy as in the pandemic, but as a social media support and blogger, I have really grown and it feels incredible. I haven’t blogged on my site much lately, but I have been regularly blogging for I appreciate Alice’s support for educators and letting guest bloggers share their creations on her platform!

If you are interested in reading my blogs from her site, take a look:

All I Want For Christmas is a Signed Copy of the #ImSorryStory

Find Out Students’ Needs in Private Comments

Schedule Your Tweet in Advance on Twitter

Read Aloud: I AM Valuable By Dr. Deshunna Monay Ricks

Coding To Kindness with Author Valerie Sousa

Using @StreamYardapp & @Canva to Create a LIVE Class or Personal Broadcast

Top 3 Google Classroom Beginner YouTube Picks

The Intentional KCPS Digital Learning Team @kcpsdlt

Change Up Your Lessons with @Flocabulary

Google Classroom Start for Beginners: a playlist that needs to be shared!

You Are Invited to our Teacher Tech FB Community!

SEL Story Connection & Virtual Author Read Aloud with @MjmcalliWrites

I know I have written a few more, but you can see I’ve been blogging more than ever! If you can guest blog for someone with a large platform, jump at the opportunity.

Here are a few blogging tips I’ve learned along the way:

  1. WRITE, WRITE, WRITE: Consistency helps builds your audience.
  2. SEEK Feedback from others who will critically look at your writing. Don’t shy away from feedback, it is the KEY to help you grow in your writing.
  3. SHARE what you are doing without fear. There are others out there who will learn from your work!
  4. REVISE REVISE REVISE and then publish.
  5. Edit others’ writing and you are supporting them and growing in your own writing skills.
  6. Blog posts don’t have to be long. No one has a ton of time, even during a pandemic. 300-400 words and a couple of headings for organization is the sweet spot for many busy readers. Watch the size of your graphics because really large pictures take a while to load when readers go to your post.

Thank you for reading and supporting my work. I’m so excited that I will feature my first guest blog on here soon!!


Today has been my favorite homeschool day so far. We used @Flocabulary @nearpod @YouTube to learn more about voting, elections, and the electoral college.

Tonight, we are going to follow the blue and red to put it all together. My kids know that it’s their right and privilege to vote when they turn 18. They know that even if they decide to vote for someone different than me, I will still love and support them, even though it’s natural to feel disappointed when we feel strongly about different platforms.

They know it’s okay to change their party and vote for whom they believe is the best candidate according to their own values.

They know that voting to take away others’ choice is always wrong, even if it’s different from the choices we would make ourselves.

They know the truth about our history and voting suppression, which is real and still alive today! It just looks more legal and acceptable for some in power.

Did you know that it’s legal for astronauts to vote for President from space, but American citizens in Puerto Rico, Guam, and other US terrotories do not and have never beeng granted that right by our US Constitution?

They know these vocabulary words: platform, debate, ballot, running mate, swing states, Republican, Democrat, Independent, register, rights, civic responsibility, and representative democracy.

I am raising my kids to think for themselves, even if it’s different than my thinking. Truthfully, I expect them to be much wiser than I ever was. I wish so much that my own family had valued free thinking and that it didn’t take me 40 years to understand how propaganda and the religious right controlled me with fear. And that I allowed them to because seeking truth took work.